Ciaran, thanks for sharing your experience. I like your take on it, booty for me, bbc for she lol

I think for a lot of people, it is a racial fetish and that's the problem. Big butts come from all over, and it's not traditionally racially motivated. So the problem isn't inherent to one race being fetishized.

A lot of the big porn companies are capitalizing on this as well, which causes an even bigger problem.

But like you said, if someone is dating you simply bc of your BBC, is that an issue? Yes, I would think so, if that's all it is. It's great to be desired, but no one wants to only be desired for one piece of themselves.

This is a great piece, thanks so much for being brave enough to put it all out there so to speak!