Oh, I can definitely see the conundrum re: cleaning and drying when it comes to men's toys! Especially strokers. They almost require a degree! Good thing you have one ;-) But seriously, discretion is not a thing there, as you must leave most of them to air dry or you run the risk of serious issues.
If you find external stimulation pleasurable, go with a wand, since you mentioned the Hitachi! Wands aren't gendered, but I would highly recommend the VIM from Fun Factory over the Hitachi. It is FANTASTIC.
Your partner will likely want to use it, too. It is large, but can definitely be used during partnered play.
Also, Duke is a lot of fun, it's a prostate vibe, easy to clean, can be left to air dry, but you could also use a soft cloth to dry it off after washing then put it away.
And then there's the Manta. It is one of FUN FACTORY's most loved male toys. It can absolutely be used during partnered play, but of course, during solo fun, too. It's rather silly looking, but don't let that deter you. The 'wings' hold lube perfectly but aren't difficult to clean, it air dries or can also be dried with a soft cloth, the vibrations are intense like all FF toys.
That's why i recommend their toys so often. Their motors are unmatched imho. They are buzzy like most, they rumble and are deep feeling. That's my favorite, and if you're talking about Hitachi being the feeling you want, then FF is going to be what you want to go for.
I will note, as for what you said about 'passing them on' referring to toys you didn't like...tbh, if they are silicone and you clean them properly and have that kind of relationship with a friend, you absolutely can pass them along or sell them online in reddit groups. Just a thought.
Hope this helps further! Take care, Tony!
-Demi
